The Basics of Rimming

Rimming, as sexy and hot and intimate and delightfully nasty as it is...is not everyone's cup of tea. Yet some people love the feel of teasing their tongue into their partner's ass and feeling them squirm with pleasure. And many people love the sensation of a warm wet tongue pushing into their anus. It can be exquisite. (Can you tell I am biased, here?)

But let's back up (subtle pun intended) and begin at the beginning for those of you not familiar with the terminology.

Rimming: Using your tongue and lips to stimulate your partner's anal opening - also called analingus.

Perhaps some of you out there are going ewwww. But there are many of us who love the sensuality of loving attention in such a vulnerable place. Others are turned on by the taboo factor and perceived nastiness of it. The anal area is definitely full of sensitive nerve endings and can be just the thing to stimulate a wickedly intense orgasm. Additionally, rimming can also be lovely foreplay to pegging.

So how does one go about "rimming"? Since you have found your way to this website I assume you take pleasure in or are curious about anal penetration (either giving or receiving). Because this site is all about the glorious act of pegging, I will concentrate primarily on male receiving, though women love rimming, too!

Rimming can be a delicious, teasing introduction and invitation to anal penetration. Men who are interested in the idea of pegging but are inexperienced or apprehensive can experience rimming to see if anal stimulation turns their crank. (I have yet to meet a man who didn't enjoy it.)  The flutter of a warm wet tongue on his sensitive, puckered opening can produce spontaneous exclamations of pleasure...occasionally a full octave higher then normal...

Positions

The optimum positions for receiving rimming are either on hands and knees or laying face down with 2-3 pillows under the hips (or if you are a connoisseur of sex furniture - a Liberator sex cushion rocks.)

The advantage of the hands and knees position is that it will part his cheeks nicely, all the better to receive your attentions. Also, you can easily reach your hand underneath him and stroke his balls and cock for a mind-blowing orgasm.

The benefit of using pillows or a cushion is that it will allow him to relax completely while your tongue and lips are tantalizing his sweet ass...and for beginners, this can be important. If the pillows or cushion are placed forward a bit, giving his manly equipment some room, you can pull his cock back to stimulate it if that's comfortable for him. Many times if you start with him on pillows at a certain point he will spontaneously get up on his hands and knees just because he wants...more. More stimulation of his cock, deeper penetration of his anus with fingers, toys, or perhaps a strap-on. But I do get ahead of myself...

Foreplay...

Massage your partner's back and butt to relax him. Kiss the back of his neck...brush your nipples against his back. Gentle or feather-light fingers on the small of his back, his butt, the insides of his thighs and his balls. Tune him in sensually. Then pull his legs gently far enough apart (if they are not there already) so you can settle yourself behind him and have the object of your attentions front and center. Knead and stroke his ass cheeks, kissing and licking them softly. Work your way gradually down his crack to his anus. Slowly. Rimming is something to take your time with.

The whole point here is that by the time your tongue actually touches his anus you want him to have been imagining how it would feel for the last 5-10 minutes; craving it. Even if your guy is quite experienced, approaching rimming this way is a first-rate erotic tease. If you get off on seeing your guy squirm - I highly recommend the slow approach.

The Act Itself

There are a variety of techniques that you can mix and match:

Reach your tongue as far as you can down to his perineum or "taint" and begin licking there, slowly working your way up to his anus.

Kiss his anus with soft lips, slowly, over and over.

Touch your soft, warm, wet tongue to his ass and just leave it there for a while, then slowly beginning to move it around.

Flutter your tongue around the edges of his sensitive puckered opening.

Lick him with regular firm strokes of your tongue.

Stiffen your tongue and insert it into his anus, basically fucking him with it.

Your partner will let you know which of these he likes the best, either by moaning or gasping...or pushing back to get more of the luscious thrills you are offering. Pay attention to these signs and you will discover his favorites.

What's Next?

For some men, rimming can be intensely enjoyable for a fairly long period of time without any other stimulation. Others will crave fingers, butt plugs, dildos and/or cock and balls attention pretty quickly because rimming turns them on so much. At that point it is up to you (and perhaps the nature of your relationship) whether to indulge your man's urges or make him wait for it.

My personal preference? There are few things as erotically thrilling as when I have made him wait for it so long that when his pegging adventure commences I am treated to his voice, rough with passion, pleading, "Fuck me!"

Bathe That Butt

Okay - I did this kind of back-assward here, because obviously, asses need to be washed thoroughly before rimming. Part of the act can involve a seductive bath or shower together so you are both squeaky clean. Enemas can be part of the ritual if that is something you enjoy, so that you know you are clean inside as well.

The possibility of STD and STI transmission is a very important consideration with rimming. You need to be fully informed about the risks you are taking if you decide to perform rimming without a barrier. As with any sexual activity, know the risks and then make your own decisions.

Butt (hee hee), my dear readers, the hour grows late and I will address that issue in detail in my next post. I know...that's like placing a gourmet meal in front of you and asking you not to eat it until I give you the fork (you are so gonna use your fingers...). I guess I  am indeed an insufferable tease...!

Seriously, you can find that information pretty easily on the internet - so if you are hot to try out some things I described and can't wait until my next post, be responsible and please educate yourself about the risks first.

Happy Rimming!

Ruby Ryder