Hi, I'm writing you because I'm very new to pegging. I've been with my bf for over a year & a half & we've done anal play with hands to each other plenty of times. We recently went to a sex store to look around, & I noticed he kept going towards the dildos & strap ons. I want to make him happy, so we purchased one.
We used it the other night on him, & since then my mind has been racing. He enjoys it, but I'm not sure. I've been researching, & I know lots of straight couples do it. But still, can't stop thinking. I want to make him happy. Is it common to wonder about his sexuality? I love him, & I enjoy it when we're doing it, but feel weird afterward. I'm just looking for advice & or opinions. Thank you so much.
First - Let me commend you on your open-mindedness that allowed you to indulge your boyfriend, purchase a strap-on and have some fun. Well done!
The misconception that anal stimulation has anything to do with sexual orientation is completely false. Unfortunately it runs strong in our society. Men who enjoy anal stimulation...simply enjoy anal stimulation. And there is a very good reason for that. The prostate gland, accessed from inside the rectum, feels as good to a man as the G-spot feels to a woman! That's pretty damn good.
And as far as the thought that "only gay men enjoy anal sex" - a recent study showed that only 35 - 36% of gay men even have anal sex. And yet - that's the first thing people assume when a man enjoys anal stimulation is that he must like other men. Not so.
Because this connotation is so strong, it is sadly somewhat common for women to wonder about their man's sexuality when first exploring pegging with them. Usually these women quickly work past these concerns and realize it is just another way to find pleasure and has no bearing whatsoever on his gender preference. The reason you feel weird is because of all those misconceptions you have had for years and are trying to let go of. Also, you might feel weird because it is a strange sensation to strap one on. At first it feels awkward and strange because you've never had a penis! You'll get used to it.
If your boyfriend was straight before you pegged him, he is not suddenly going to develop a craving for penises and muscular, hairy bodies just because you fucked him in the ass. He will, however, probably really enjoy the pleasure, role reversal and vulnerability of the act. Don't let that worry you. Just enjoy it with him!
You can also click the tag cloud on the left where it says, "is he gay?" There is a wealth of information there for you...