Yes, I call my Webinars, "The Art of Pegging for Beginners, The Art of Pegging Equipment, and The Art of Pegging Advanced".
Why do I use the word 'Art'?
First Off, There's a Lot to it
There are many parts to Pegging. Numerous factors converge, and result in a sexual activity that, for many, is quite complex. Exploring those factors can be a rather involved adventure.
Role Reversal
The role reversal aspect of pegging is often a source of much confusion, awkwardness and steep learning curves. Imagine being really good at couples dancing and then all of a sudden you switch roles as leader and follower. Bringing role reversal into your sexual relationship can open you up to radical new experiences and possibilities. It can also feel foreign and strange.
The Stuff That's Already in Your Head
Combine that with whatever societal conditioning you may have around masculinity or rigid gender roles and there can be surprising, and potentially uncomfortable, emotional experiences as well. Yes, it's okay for receivers to open up and be vulnerable. Yes, it's okay for givers to take control and run the fuck. After a lifetime of conditioning about how sex is 'supposed' to be, this can be tricky territory. Gaining an awareness of your biases, letting go of them an exploring new ways of thinking and relating to your partner are all required steps before you arrive at good pegging.
Contributing Factors
Coupled with any relationship skills that might need work like good communication, clearly asking for wants and needs, or the ability to voice concerns or fears. Additionally, there may be body/performance confidence issues, past traumas, age, health, or hormonal factors. Don't forget life challenges, and particular sensitivities, and the complexities increase.
Basically, navigating your way through all that takes time, patience, willingness, and openness. While some of these factors will apply to you and others won't, it can get complicated!
Art Requires Skill and Practice
At some point, you get good at it and find your rhythm or your groove. Then it can feel like producing a beautiful painting after perfecting your artistic skills. The dildo and harness are your palate and brush. The lube is your paint. The way you come together with your partner is the canvas!
Most art doesn't just happen. You need to learn the skill to make the art. Pegging is similar. Mind-blowing pegging requires effort and technique. This is why I refer to pegging as an art. I believe that the rich satisfaction of a particularly good pegging session is quite an artistic achievement in the arena of sexual activities. It's varsity-level sex.
I have faith in all of you, that you can draw your own map, and navigate it with authenticity and integrity. Then you can travel down that path with your partner, eventually elevating pegging to an art form!
