I wrote about this a year ago (Doesn't it Hurt?) when I first started blogging and bringing my erotica into the world.
Since then...I've learned so much more about what it feels like for a man to have a woman slip a dildo inside him and fuck his sweet ass. As many of you know...I got a lot of practice; often the best way to learn. But I also participated in many forums online where men waxed poetic about getting pegged....sharing information about how it feels, what positions are best for the most pleasure, what kinds of orgasms they have experienced and the particular sensations associated with each. In all of my explorations, conversations and discussions, the same theme kept coming back over and over. Pleasure, pleasure and more pleasure.
So let me formally and unequivocally answer the question posed by the title of this article...
Yes, Yes and Yes. Oh....and Yes.
And...OH!! YES!!
Okay...there will of course be the occasional man who does not get a thrill out of pegging...because people are delightfully diverse. Bodies are different, emotional makeups differ and sexual openness will vary. There will also be the occasional man who hates even a finger in his ass because it hurts, or even if it doesn't hurt ass play is just not his thing. They are out there. But for the overwhelming majority of men...it feels incredible. Really incredible.
Reassuring the Women
If you are a woman reading this and you have doubts about pegging your husband/boyfriend/significant other because you can't see how he could possibly enjoy it...please, do read on. I have become a firm believer that the only way to be good at giving anal sex is to receive it. Many women have been on the receiving end of bad anal sex. You know the kind. The well-meaning inexperienced guy shoves his spit-on cock up your ass because he doesn't have a clue that you can't treat an ass like a vagina (that's what they do in the porn movies, right?)....and it fucking hurts like hell...so you never, ever want to have anal sex again...ever. I know this happens more than people realize. So maybe years go by...and now a guy is asking you to fuck him in the ass? I see how you could be confused. Here's the secret:
Anal sex done correctly does not hurt.
Without going into the specifics of how to peg your guy (that is elsewhere on this website), what I want to make sure that you realize is that not only will it not hurt your man if you do it right, there is a very good chance he will be over the moon, singing, swooning and having orgasms more intense than anything he's ever experienced! So if you have found your way to my website because your guy is asking you to peg him...chances are he may have already found out on his own that anal stimulation feels amazing or he's heard that it is and would love to explore with you. Awesome - one more way to experience intimate pleasure as a couple. Keep reading.
Why does Pegging feel so good to men?
Two words. Prostate gland. Direct stimulation of a man's prostate gland can feel as good as a woman's G-spot feels when stimulated. Really. So yes...it can absolutely bring a man thrilling, orgasmic sensations as well as actual orgasms with stimulation of his cock and sometimes even...without touching his cock at all.
Reassuring the Men
If you have found your way to this website you may be one of the incredibly lucky men whose woman has actually approached you with the idea of pegging. And yes, you are quite fortunate. Or perhaps you have heard or read about the potential pleasure involved and just wanted to learn more. No matter how you got here, if you are at all questioning whether strap-on sex can be enjoyable, rest assured that it can indeed bring you exquisite pleasure and is well worth exploring with your partner. You have the potential to delight in orgasms ten times more powerful than anything you have ever experienced , orgasms that produce prodigious amounts of come. Some men can orgasm without touching their cock, and those "hands-free" orgasms can not only be the most exquisite of all, some men attain multiple orgasms that way as well. How could you possibly read all that and not at least give it a try?!
Yes, Pegging feels...incredible. And here's a Newsflash:
Women can orgasm from pegging, too.
(That article is in the works...)
What the Men Say About Pegging Orgasms
"The best way I know to describe it is very close to a female orgasm. They start in my tummy/pelvis and radiate through my body in wave after wave of pleasure. No, I do not experience any kind of ejaculation either. Many times I am left lying there limp as a rag doll."
"I haven't had many experiences but every time a woman has used her strap-on and taken my ass...I'll get super hard and cum very hard too."
"I have very strong to the point of shaking orgasms and just a gusher of cum, hit the ceiling strong."
"I absolutely can orgasm, in a very non-male way.. no ejaculate... As described by a few others, it's sort of a mind/brain short circuiting body sensory meltdown.. I shake and quiver uncontrollably, breath very short and rapidly, and become incredibly sensitive to sounds and touch... This can go for several minutes (in one case), but usually only lasts 30-60 seconds... When it's done I feel like I've run a marathon.. Exhausted and quivering... It leaves my mind cleared out like shaking an etch-a-sketch... Sign me up anytime for more :)"
Ya know, I'm very skeptical... So much BS spread around... I decided to try this and prove you all wrong... I fired up my fucking machine with a moderate dildo, and ran it for 25 minutes... Nothing... Then I recalled a few prostate orgasm videos which showed what everybody is talking about.. Watching the technique and pressure they used, I decided to try a firmer, plastic g spot vibrator...after a few minutes, the feeling grew intense, and all my muscles involuntarily tense and I let out this deep throated groan losing all control.. The muscles released, and I was panting for my breath.. A few minutes later .. The same... 4 times in 20 minutes... I can only conclude they were anal orgasms... No ejaculate.. Just extreme contractions...I can't wait to do it again... It truly happens... Amazing experience...I'm a believer!
Kudos to those of you who allowed me to use your comments here. Thanks for sharing descriptions of your orgasmic pegging experience with us and here's hoping it convinces a few of the curious to give it a try.
Note: Pain is an indicator. If you experience pain with anal stimulation despite slow exploration with small fingers/toys and plenty of lube, get checked by your doctor just to make sure you do not have a medical condition that needs attention.
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ok I’ve finally let the woman I’ve been seeing to play with my ass for a bit.. I’ve got to say.. It’s very unpleasant.. It feels like I have to pee all the time. I’m glad I found this site and finally got the nerve to try it, but it’s just not that fun.
Again I wish you all the best and luck .. if not for you I wouldn’t have tried it at all.
Hey Questions – Anal play isn’t for everyone, and there are those who really don’t care for the sensation at all. I find it interesting that you describe it as a feeling like you have to pee all the time, because that is the same feeling G-Spot stimulation can give to women (and there are quite a few similarities between the prostate and the G-Spot). For me, there is a lot of pleasure underneath that having to pee sensation, once I relaxed through it and just enjoyed. If you are curious, check out the forum at Aneros and there will surely be threads describing that exact experience from the men there. Even if you decide not to pursue it – kudos to you for giving it a try!
Id just like to say a little something of my own personal opinion being a straight male, who does gay porn.
I enjoy anal sex with women both giving and receiving. However, contrary to what you and almost everyother “pegging” (i hate that word) enthusiast might have you believe: The prostate does nothing for me. It is the mental stimulation.
I am not into anal sex because it feels good when it stimulates my prostate. In fact, long slow or fast strokes in an out of my ass doesnt even feel remotely “pleasurable”
What I do enjoy about it is the stretching and being “forced”. I enjoy getting my butthole STRETCHED. not necessarily depth, but width. shallow width.
And heres another thing: there are millions of homosexuals, both male and female, who dont ever engage in anal sex ever.
I could go on and on and on. While most of your points are valid, well intentioned, and based on some basic information I feel as though you are unintentionally perpetrating just as big of a lie and misconception as the powers you are trying to speak out against.
If you read only this article and think that it represents everything I know about about pegging – you are not getting the entire picture.
This piece addresses that.
I get that…and you are in the minority. I know that some men feel no prostate thrill at all and some even say it is distinctly uncomfortable. I mean I suppose I am guilty of not listing every possible way a man can enjoy pegging other than the most common (prostate pleasure)…but I was addressing the majority, frankly. Sexuality is complicated. Some men get off on the submission, others love their ass beat, still others like to pretend they are a woman. Your charge of:
is over the top. I do believe I had a disclaimer paragraph in the article:
Okay…there will of course be the occasional man who does not get a thrill out of pegging…because people are delightfully diverse. Bodies are different, emotional makeups differ and sexual openness will vary. There will also be the occasional man who hates even a finger in his ass because it hurts, or even if it doesn’t hurt ass play is just not his thing. They are out there. But for the overwhelming majority of men…it feels incredible. Really incredible.
We could go on and on here because as far as I am aware there are no studies done that have evaluated what percentage of men enjoy prostate stimulation. Do you know a lot of men who don’t enjoy prostate stimulation??? I know one. I have read threads in forums of about 5 more…amongst the multitude of men who love it.
Did I describe your exact situation? No. So sue me, geez.
Oh – and you are not the only one who hates the word pegging…but it is here to stay.
We enjoy this very much and with a strapon that inserts for her also and vibrates sometimes she just forgets what she is doing, I love those moments
Hi Ron – sounds perfectly lovely….and primal.
I wanted pegging for many years but was embarrassed to ask a woman to do it. Then I met a lesbian couple, confessed my desires to them and…….WOW! they were into it! now I can’t have it enough.
Now that’s a new twist; lesbian couple helps man with first pegging experience… Nice!
My husband has been doing it to his self. He never told me until one night I went to use the restroom and he dropped the dildo. I freaked out and still have my curiosity towards him if he is bi, straight, or gay? He has looked up heterosexuals woman with dicks. I don’t know if I should try it to please him or what. I am new at it and confused and a little freaked out when he asked me if I would screw him with it in him still. What do I say and do?
Dear Christina,
Thank you for writing me. My apologies that it has taken so long for me to respond.
It can be difficult to discover that your husband enjoys something that you connect with being gay or bisexual. But here’s the reality. Your husband enjoys anal play because it feels good. Just like women have a G-spot that feels good, men enjoy prostate stimulation. All it means is that your husband enjoys prostate stimulation, nothing more! I encourage you not to worry about his sexual orientation just because he likes anal play.
Likely he was hiding it from you, because he was afraid of your reaction. Also, there are many men who have completely straight (heterosexual) sexual lives, who also enjoy looking at transsexual women. I am assuming this is what you meant. These would be pictures of beautiful women with dicks. That is one of the most popular types of porn for men to look at. Though it seems strange, men do enjoy looking at other dicks. So when you combine a beautiful woman and a dick, that is the best of both worlds for them visually. It does not mean that they want to go out and find a real dick.
I do not know if your husband has any underlying bisexuality. But I do know that if a man is very straight, anal play is not going to change that.
The best thing that you can do is to take a deep breath, let go of your fears, and educate yourself about it.
Here are some links so that you can read about it.
https://peggingparadise.com/blog/2012/03/new-to-pegging/
https://peggingparadise.com/blog/2012/03/faq/
This can be a very exciting thing for you and your husband to explore. In the beginning, it can seem strange, awkward, and a little clumsy. But many couples have found they really enjoy it. And when men receive what is called strap on play (putting the dildo in a harness and strapping it on your hips) they are usually intensely grateful to their partners for playing with them in this manner. Try to have fun with it, laugh, and play with each other! And… If there’s anything that you have been wanting sexually, but have not had the courage to ask for, now would be the time.
All the best,
Ruby