I recently had a gathering for the holidays at my home. The invitation was extended far and wide, so I enjoyed seeing friends I had not seen in too many moons. My house was filled with amazing people, laughter, delicious food, plentiful drink and a cozy fire in the fireplace. I love parties...especially my own.
The "catching up" conversations were interesting. A few of my friends know I write erotica, but not many. Even fewer know my passion is pegging.
So after the usual information is exchanged I might get a question like. "So what else have you been doing?"
"I've been writing a lot, actually."
"That's great! What are you writing?"
"Erotica."
It is at this point my conversational partner will let me know how much they want to know. Sometimes it goes like this....
"Oh...wow...nice," followed immediately by a quick change of subject.
But a few are immediately interested, leaning closer to me and asking details...really? book? website? making much money? I happily answer their questions and then mention that I am actually teaching as well because my particular interest is edgy and has a bit of a niche market.
At that point I lose a few more listeners. They change the subject, preferring not to delve further into my sexual proclivities.
So the friends who do cross that last line and ask what I write and teach about, I trust to be open-minded enough not to judge if pegging is not their cup of tea. So far this method of revealing has served me well.
And this exact scenario played out at my party. The woman who I was talking with is a dear friend and happens to be a lesbian. I knew I could say anything to her as she is a lovely, open, positive and delightfully sexual woman. So I was not surprised when she said, "Okay you have to tell me what it is!"
"My passion is to fuck a guy up the ass with a strap-on dildo."
"Ooohhh!....But.....why wouldn't he just go get that from a guy...?"
I realize at this point that I really have my work cut out for me in the land of pegging misconceptions. Here was a very intelligent, aware woman who was so not "born yesterday" as they say...and that is her first thought about pegging? And she even enjoys strap-on play with her girlfriend, as I discovered later!
So I slowly and carefully say my oft-repeated reply.
"The area of your body...that you enjoy having stimulated.....has absolutely no bearing on...the gender you prefer to do the stimulating." I could see the gears in her head shifting as she processed that and the awareness of a different reality settled in. I love doing that.
In the wee hours of the morning as I was crawling happily into my cozy bed with that post-party bliss...I did have a tiny regret that I had not shared with her my other favorite line about the gay misconception. This one is about pegging turning a man gay.
"A guy getting fucked with a strap-on has as much of a chance of turning him gay as a lesbian getting fucked with a strap-on turning her straight."
She would have gotten a good laugh from that one!
♥Happy Holidays....and Happy Pegging♥
Ruby Ryder
6 Responses
Hey, Ruby,
Great story. I love it.
A commenter on my blog said some nice things about you and me. I don’t know if he (?) sent it to you also, but you can see it at http://heyhiall.blogspot.com/2011/08/ruby-ryders-pegging-paradise.html (scroll down to comments).
Love,
Vickie
Vickie! That really was a sweet comment. I am in good company, mentioned in the same sentence as you – and kudos given to both of us!
Readers – I highly recommend you check out Vickie’s blog if you haven’t already. Between the two of us, I believe we really will change the world (one ass at a time).
Ladies that sweet commenter is a he 😉 I am a straight guy who is not really into bdsm but find the idea of pegging absolutely fascinating (though I haven’t done it yet). For me pegging is about a woman wanting to make love to her man’s butt and should be independent of femdom (though a woman talking a bit dirty to the man wouldn’t exactly be a turnoff lol).
Its really weird that I am not at all interested in the fetishes that go hand in hand with pegging like crossdressing, cbt etc. But something about presenting my ass to a woman donning a strap on really turns me on.
I think movies such as pegging: a strap on love story, his booty is my duty ( funny name lol) reflect the part of pegging that i love.
I always look forward to new posts on both of your blogs. Keep changing the world by making more and more butts pucker up for strap ons!
ps: sorry for the long comment
Awe – you are always welcome to leave comments of any length here – you know that!
I wish there were some statistics on how many men who love pegging enjoy the fetishes you say go “hand in hand” with it – because I think they mostly only go hand in hand in porn. Certainly there are a lot of men who enjoy those fetishes – but is it even the majority? I don’t know and probably never will until pegging becomes widely accepted by society. Because the way it is now – men won’t tell…and I don’t blame them.
There are so many different ways to enjoy pegging….it boggles the mind.
Thanks for your reply ruby. The interesting question is how many ladies are into it and why. Is it mainly because they love their partner (that’s what i think) or some other reason such as she really likes the man’s butt.
Well for me it is all about butts – I have always fantasized about pegging no matter what partner I had. There are some women who have found pegging themselves but more of them initially discover it through their guys, I think. If I knew what motivated most women to try pegging I’d be shouting it on every blog I travel through and every kinky class I teach!