Harness Question

Dear Ruby,

I am a man of 21 and over the year my girlfriend and I have gotten into strap-on play. It started when I want to perform anal on her and her request was only if she could perform it on me. I did not believe that she would go through it. Well she did and in the end, she loved it! I am an athletic built guy with a round butt and needless to say she can’t get her hands off of it! So we continued to do it. I never thought that my girlfriend would do this to me, although I will have to admit, I have fantasized about it a few times. She continues to want to do it, as well as I! The excitement, dominance, fun, and orgasm are more than words can describe.

However, I have come across a problem. She is a tiny girl. About 5′ 2″ and a little over 100 pounds. The strapon we have gotten leaves too much leather hanging down. I was wondering if you could help me to figure out what is a good strapon that is sexy, but will fit her snug and good without looking like spaghetti strings everywhere? Thank you!


Dear Reader,

Thanks for writing in! I so enjoy hearing about young people like you already enjoying the pleasures of pegging.

Your question required a bit of research, as I am on the other end of the scale; 5'11" and 170 lbs! I did recall Outlaw Leather (business has closed) telling their buyers that the straps could be easily trimmed so as not to have so much hanging down while in use, and they even give you measurements to go by so you don't cut them too short. So I wrote them to ask and received the following reply:

I have a friend who is that size and the harnesses fit her perfectly.  I'd say the smallest diameter they'd fit would be about a 20" waist without the buckles or d-rings being too far forward.

The other WAY cool thing about Outlaw harnesses is the design which allows a dildo to be inserted in the wearer. This harness got an excellent review from several reviewers I follow. I wish I could say I have an Outlaw Leather harness - but it is definitely at the top of my list for next purchase.....I am so jones-ing for one!

Hope that helps.  Let me know if you have any more questions.

Send pictures...!

Happy Pegging,

Ruby Ryder


One Response

  1. I just got my new Outlaw Leather harness – the Annie O! Will likely be a while before I put it to the test but it’s beautiful! So well made. I can hardly wait…

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