One thing I have been hearing about over and over lately is couples who rush through the period of time between getting excited about trying out pegging, and the first time the actually do it.
There is so much to learn and so much to enjoy during that space of time! Not only will you really miss out if you rush through it, your initial experience with pegging might be more awkward and difficult as a result. So many 'firsts' happen, too! You don't want to miss a one.
I'm big on anticipation. If I could give lovers a timeline to follow from when they share that first exciting moment of embracing the concept of pegging, feeling all that eagerness to explore, to the actual moment of insertion, it would look something like this...
- For the next 5 or more times you have sex, explore his ass as a part of your foreplay. If you want to try rimming for foreplay, but aren't sure about sticking your tongue in his ass, try a dental dam - they are sheer and ultra-thin - he won't be able to tell the difference. Use fingers and plenty of lube. Gloves are optional. Take it really slow, make it a sensual experience. Stay in communication and have fun. Giggle and laugh if you feel like it. Sometimes exploring new territory is funny and it's okay to feel nervous or self-conscious. Go so slow that he is arching his ass back to meet her fingers.
- Around the 3rd or fourth time, once he can easily take a couple of fingers, use the beginner dildo that you bought for pegging. She can hold it in her hand and discover what angle, depth, and speed sends him to the moon. This is what she will be trying to duplicate when she straps it on.
- Spend one evening staying in. She wears the harness while you both cook/eat dinner, watch TV, or clean the kitchen. This gets her used to putting it on and how it feels to have a cock! It also teases the fuck out of him to watch her walk around with it. Heh heh.
- Finally - this is the night. He cleans out. He has no fear whether he can take the toy or not - he's already had it inside him. She knows what she is aiming for after playing with the toy and her fingers. She's used to wearing the harness and cock and knows how to put it on. The blanket is on the bed, because you've done this before. The lube is handy, along with a towel, and you are ready to begin pegging...
- Write and tell me how it went and I will play the music for you on my next podcast!