Do Women Love Pegging?

All women are different, but I can tell you that I definitely love pegging. So what is it exactly that turns my crank when I don a strap-on and peg my guy?

My, my, my…so many things.

The Pleasure Principle

More than any other reason, I love to peg a man because it brings him so much pleasure. Some time ago I had the privilege of introducing a new  lover to pegging. After he came exquisitely hard in his hand while I sunk deep inside him…he gasped, “I had no idea!” I love the cause and effect of watching a man’s body react when I thrust inside him. I love the moans and gasps I can elicit. Pegging allows me to actually be inside him giving him pleasure, which is a thrill in itself; the only time in sexual play that I get to do that. But mostly…I just love to put a man in ecstasy with my strap-on.

Open up, Baby

There is a vulnerability that is necessary for a man to be penetrated. I don’t really see that with vanilla sex. A softness in his face. His eyes become a little unfocused or they close. I love that vulnerability. I love to see a man purely receptive and open…it is a rare and beautiful sight. That vulnerability makes me want to gather him in my arms and fuck him sweetly and continuously until he comes with cries of passion.

Happy at the Helm

I love…running the fuck. I am in control (Ruby likes control…). I can tease him…or pound him…until he begs for release or respite. I can change the angle of my toy just a bit and know it’s driving him crazy with pleasure. Or I can stay still, buried inside him and drive him crazy with wanting more. I am wearing the dildo, so I get to decide.

Forbidden Fruit

I love the taboo aspect of it. I mean, as taboo thrills go – fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo is like the Dubai Tower of illicit sex thrills for me. But also there is the whole ass thing. Sadly, asses suffer from widespread discrimination. People who are happy to dress up their derrière  in sexy articles of clothing designed to attract widespread attention…would never think of  undressing that ass and actually taking it for a drive to see what it can do! Asses are often thought of as a dirty, nasty place that serves only one function, period. Well, let’s see…dirty? Absolutely. Which is why you wash it really, really well before you start playing with it! Duh! …Nasty? Yes! Nasty with a capital N and an exclamation mark. The juicy, titillating, throbbing, aching, fun kind of nasty. …Serves only one function? Well there are many many gay men who would beg to differ…and thankfully a growing number of straight men who have also discovered the joys of anal pleasure. *steps off soapbox*

Deliciously Dissident

Flouting  intolerant opinions is a hobby of mine. Above and beyond the ass itself, a lot people have judgments about pegging, from both sides of the dildo. If you are a man who likes pegging, clearly you must be gay…and if you are a woman who likes pegging, you wish you were a man. I love flying in the face of all those judgments and doing what I want just because I enjoy it. Sometimes I think that I gravitate towards kinkier stuff because there is a part of me that resists anyone telling me what I  should or shouldn’t do, most especially in the realm of sexual exploration. So if people view something as taboo – damn, that might be a hot thing to try! I am a bit of a rebel at heart. Does it give me a charge to know that if I told some of my friends about my proclivity for pegging, they would be shocked? Indeed it does. *smile*

The Visuals

The delectable vision of spreading those cheeks and sinking slowly into his ass…that is one of the hottest,  most amazingly arousing visuals I have ever seen….like, ever. Now I know why some of the kinkier dating sites that have amateur videos are overrun with clips of men holding a video camera pointing straight down as their cock is sinking into their woman who is on her hands and knees…I get it, guys! And from a different position, the look on his face when I am stroking my strap-on in and out…that surprised naked passion sort of OMG-what-the-fuck-are-you-doing-to-me-I-love-this look. It’s incomparable. His hands reaching back to pull his ass cheeks apart. Riding me and stroking his cock. So many visuals! Who says women aren’t as visual as men! If more women tried pegging perhaps the numbers would change.

My Pleasure

Do I get pleasure? Oh yes. Oh God, yes. Dripping throbbing, aching, clenching pleasure…without a doubt. I’m playing with how to orgasm while I am actually pegging my guy. Some women do…and I want to join them in that singular pleasure. There are dildos that offer a vibe in the base that are slated for experimentation…I’ll let you know how it goes. Might take a lot of practice…I don’t think he will mind.

Happy Pegging.

Ruby Ryder

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19 Responses to “Do Women Love Pegging?”

  1. Scarlett D Lite says:

    Hi!
    I love pegging but my partner has a haemorroid and it just is too scary for him. So he refuses; I am disappointed. What can I do to alleviate his fear? Should I use ointment like Proctosedyl or Rectinol on him first?

    • Ruby says:

      Ointments like Proctosedyl or Rectinol have numbing agents to relieve the pain of hemorrhoids so you never want to use them for pegging.

      What I would suggest is that he try a prostate massager like High Island Health (Same company as Aneros). Here’s why I suggest that: Hemorrhoids develop because of a lack of circulation and healthy vasculature in the rectal canal due to overstressed musculature in the region. These prostate massage devices help stimulate that tissue and many times can solve the problem and the hemorrhoids will recede. The first link I gave you for High Island has a Hemorrhoid FAQs page and it tells you which hemorrhoids will respond to the massagers. Many times when men use these devices they discover how pleasurable prostate stimulation can be. If his hemorrhoids are too severe (type 3 or 4) then he may need surgery before you will be able to peg him because they will just get irritated and bleed and no one will have any fun!

  2. Gabriele says:

    I wish I could find a man that would let me have unrestrained use of his body. but no such luck.

    • Ruby says:

      They are definitely out there – try FetLife.com.

    • EPC says:

      You could also try Babblesex. There’s also f-list.net where strap-ons and pegging are one of the common kinks.

      • Ruby says:

        Aren’t those mostly online cam/chat/roleplaying sites? Or are they designed to actually meet people?

        • EPC says:

          Agreed! They are *not* designed to meet people, but I’ve seen kink-specific meet-up requests/ads on babble. I’ve never tried fet-life though

          • Ruby says:

            Fetlife is designed more for community networking in terms of whatever specific kink you have. There are groups for every kink and area specific groups as well. The search capabilities are not designed to look for someone in your area with a specific kink, but that keeps the trolls out and I have indeed met men from Fetlife. I don’t have any interest in online-only stuff…I have toys to test!!!

  3. Brad says:

    I really really really wish I could find an open minded girl like you who wants to bend me over and pound me into submission, not just to please me but because she loves doing it, no such luck. I could never come out and say it I want a girl who will suggest it, that way I know she likes it otherwise they may just be secretly judging me thinking I’m weird but not say anything.

    • Ruby says:

      Here’s how I think about that…if you do not already have a girlfriend and are looking to start a relationship, it pays to lay your kink cards on the table relatively quickly. In a positive hey, this is a totally cool thing that I am into and I’d love to show you all about it kind of way. Not in a self-conscious, fearful I know this is twisted and kinda weird but I really hope you like it way. Easier said than done, I realize, but you get my point. If she judges you, you don’t want to be with a woman like that anyway – walk away and be grateful you found out before you got too involved.
      You see, if you never say anything…both of you could actually be sitting there waiting for the other person to ask because they don’t want to feel judged…and it will never happen. Which is just sad.
      Now if you are already in a relationship and wish to introduce pegging, best to read my article, “Convincing her to try it” and proceed slowly.

  4. Jason says:

    Why do some sites show women using such large strapons on their man. Is it something that is progressive, or a power and control thing. How can a man enjoy something so huge inside him.
    Thanks

    • Ruby says:

      Some men enjoy penetration with large toys. They like the feeling of being stretched. They like the more intense contact with their prostate. Some just love the idea of a really big toy – it turns them on. I heard one man explain that it took him a while to work up to a big dildo, but that once he got it in, every little movement contact his prostate quite blissfully. Multiple orgasms and everything.
      And of course – some men never want something that large inside them.
      The reason that the website show women using huge strap-ons is because nothing about porn is realistic and it’s pretty much all over the top. The women are plastic, the men are huge, the strap-ons are huge, too.

      • Sarge says:

        Ruby,
        I started self pleasuring myself after I was repeatedly turned down by my spouse to peg me (just has been a fantasy for a long time?) Yes, it hurt when she said she wouldn’t after all these years of pleasuring her. I just feel she is missing out on another chapter in our lives of pleasure. As you said Ruby, it takes some warming up, massaging and stretching but you’d be surprised how much a mans anus can stretch without pain once you are WELL lubed and taking time to slowly, SLOWLY work up to something bigger then you think! The stimulation to a man’s prostate is unbelievable. It can and has taken me to new levels of pleasure I never thought possible!!!! The intensity of my orgasms and the amount of semen I produce is also a big surprise and a huge increase……now to figure out how to get her to ride me? I think she’ll come around once I explain it is something I need and I wine and dine her…..it all takes time! Sarge

        • Ruby says:

          I like how your attitude is so positive! Persuading your partner takes communication, information and patience…and perhaps a wining and dining!

  5. harsh says:

    I agree that most of the girls love pegging. In fact girls are better fuvkers than boys. Some girls look so sexy and dominating that I love to be pegged by them In such cases I ask the girl to go through the website Pegging paradise

  6. Teee says:

    Ok, I have a question on this that I will get to, but a little background. I’m a kinky boy and I’ve had a secret fetish of wearing women’s panties (dresses and stockings too). My girlfriend found out and at first she freaked out when she found my stash of panties and thought I was a freak. However, she researched it and came around to realize it wasn’t that bad and she asked me to put on a pair of hers so of course I did and now I only wear her panties and she’s actually enjoyed dressing me up in some of her outfits too. When I first put on her panties she asked me if she could do something to me and said if it was uncomfortable she would stop…anyways, she pulled the panties to the side and started to put her finger up my ass while giving me a blowjob and that was my first experience with that and it was pretty amazing. Recently she asked me if she could try something else and given how much I liked the previous experience I said yes, so she surprised me by using a small vibrator on me while giving me a blow job again and that was amazing.

    She is a fairly conservative woman, but given how understanding and exploratory she was I wonder if she would be open to using a strapon on me? She’s made derogatory comments about them before, previous to all of this so that’s why I’m hesitant to ask. I also wonder if she may say something to the effect of she’s not a lesbian or may think it’s weird, but given recent history maybe my fears are unfounded? I have read that many women like the feeling of control doing this gives them, so this is where my other question comes in. She was in a really bad and abusive relationship prior to this, so I was wondering if pegging me could also provide some psychological benefit to her being in the position of control? I guess in a nutshell I’m curious if any women have benefited mentally/emotionally from pegging a current boyfriend/husband that were in an abusive relationship prior?

    Thanks!

    • Ruby says:

      Lots of questions here…the loaded one being:

      I’m curious if any women who were in a prior abusive relationship have benefited mentally/emotionally from pegging a boyfriend/husband?

      Good question – and I will ask this on the podcast to get more responses. As long as the being in control aspect offers a feeling of safety as opposed to general revenge/retribution – I suppose that could be possible and healthy.

      As far as whether she is ready for a strap-on – you can always send her here to the FAQ page and tell her the idea of it turns you on. You already have a foot and a half in the door with her using fingers and hand held toys on you. But know that there are women who will do what your girlfriend is doing but want nothing to do with a strap-on – it just kind of freaks them out. And her using a nice dildo on your ass with her hand would be far far better than nothing….

      And YAY about her accepting the panties!! Sweet.

      • Teee says:

        Ruby,

        Thanks for your response and I agree and that’s kind of what I meant that it would possibly be beneficial for her not only sexually, but also from a control standpoint. I’d be really curious to know what responses you get from other women who have been in a relationship like that and have pegged their partner. We had a discussion last week about boundries and I told her again how much I liked what she has done to me in the past couple of occasions, but I didn’t have the courage to bring up pegging, but maybe it’s time to give that conversation a shot. She did say she just wants to know what all I am into so maybe I’ll ask her if she has any secret fantasies and see if she brings it up. I think both of our minds have opened up a bit to other possibilities in the past few months, but my fear still exists that she may think because I think I would enjoy this that she will think I’m weird or gay or something, when nothing is further from the truth. Thanks again for your help!

        • Ruby says:

          Personally I think you should just come right out and ask her…you two are practically there already! But do your best not to present it with embarrassment or fear – be excited!

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