Yes - it's that time of the month again when I try to counter the automatic assumption that any man who enjoys getting fucked in the ass needs to question his sexual orientation.
No, he really doesn't. All he needs to do is have fun getting fucked in the ass by whomever he damn pleases.
If that someone is his girlfriend/wife with a strap-on - awesome.
If that someone is his boyfriend/husband - awesome.
If that someone is both of them - awesome.
Why this insistence on labels?
Why can't we just like what we like? All of us!
The need to put someone in a category with a label and classify them often arises more from fear than something more benign like curiosity, I believe. If the aforementioned man's orientation is anything other than heterosexual, his girlfriend/wife may fear that she can't satisfy him and therefore he will be unfaithful.
Beyond simple descriptions, labels serve to divide us. Like peggers from non-peggers. Sensual peggers from D/s peggers. Gay, hetero, bi. Be careful of the assumptions you make when you hear those labels. Let them only give you a hint but not the whole story of the person they describe. Do not assume. Instead, I urge you to inquire.
I'm enjoying a new phenomenon I've noticed lately. Mostly among young people. Someone says, "I have a date Friday night!" No matter the gender of the speaker, the first response is, "Cool! Guy or girl?" I love that non-assumptive stance. It feels so allowing to me, so open to anything and accepting of all.
That's our future. So let's embrace it now. Let go of the fear. Let go of the labels.
If a man likes to receive anal sex, he simply likes to receive anal sex. The rest of his story requires questions, not assumptions. Grant him that respect and simply inquire.
This public service announcement will be repeated on a monthly basis in an effort to deconstruct the myth that men who enjoy pegging are somehow, inherently gay.