Pegging Orgasms For the Givers!

Orgasms For the Givers

(Updated 6/26)

Okay Givers...

Let's explore what makes you orgasm while pegging. Inquiring minds want to know, especially your partners. I get asked quite often by receivers how to make pegging more enjoyable for their givers, probably so you will peg them more!

We Are All Different

Engaging in pegging gets me so hot that I'm dripping, but I am typically more about my partner's orgasm than about me getting off. That's the way I am built sexually. I love to give pleasure. We are all special snowflakes when it comes to our sexuality. Some givers (like me) focus on giving pleasure. Some of you enjoy pegging receivers strictly for your own pleasure. Others are adept at the multi-tasking and you can get yourselves and your partner off. Some of you orgasm easily while pegging, while others never will. There is no 'normal', and however you are, it's all good. Responsiveness of the participants, toys, technique, positions, and many other things are involved.

Responsiveness plays a huge role in givers' orgasms during pegging. There are givers who can get off just from the pressure of the base of the dildo against their clitoris. (Of course this requires a good fitting harness that will securely hold the dildo low enough to cover the vulva and stimulate your clit.) A rare few of you get off easily just from the thought of what you are doing, because it's just so fucking hot. Others need a Magic Wand level of clitoral stimulation to get off, and have never reached orgasm while pegging. No matter what category you fall into, the purpose of this article is to teach you about possible ways to increase your pegging pleasure!

Let's take a look at the different options available that can provide you with the type and location of stimulation you most enjoy.

Doubles - Inside and Outside

Double-ended dildos can offer excellent internal stimulation. Although there is not a lot of in and out thrusting motion from the bulb end that fits inside the giver, there is definitely some movement as well as excellent pressure when fucking your receiver. When that pressure hits the right spot, it feels amazing! There are also doubles that come with a variety of bells and whistles for your pleasure, both internally and externally.

Vaginas are all different! The various sizes and shapes of bulbs (the end that goes in the giver) will vary in comfort for each of you. There is no one size fits all. Sometimes you will end up trying a few before you find the magic fit. But you can recoup some of your money spent over at Reddit Used Sex Toys.

Keep in mind that doubles require harnesses for 95%+ of givers who use them, despite the erroneous 'strapless' claim of many manufacturers. Read more about that here: The Truth About Strapless Strap-ons. Also, many beginners find that using a double to start with is a bit overwhelming, because the learning curve with pegging is steep.

Non-Vibrating Options

For those who like pressure and/or grinding externally, and want internal stimulation, but are not a fan of vibrations:

• Vixen Creations Peacemaker combines a girthy dual density receiver end with a well-angled mono density dildo for the giver.
• Vixen Nexus Senior is a more firm and less girthy choice for both giver and receiver.
• Strap On Me Bendable is firm and has 4 size choices for the receiver end.
• Fuze offers the Tango in 3 models, firmer, softer non-realistic, and softer realistic. (These have a vibe insert option, but you don't have to use it.)

Vibrating Options

For those who want external and/or internal vibrations:

• Strap On Me Vibrating Bendable - internal/external/receiver vibes with remote, 4 sizes for receiver.
  • My review
• Strap On Me Multi Orgasm - internal/external/receiver vibes with special targeted clit design and remote, 4 sizes for receiver.
  • My review
• Fuze Tango - external vibe only, one size.
  • Strongest vibes for insert: Though these won't fit flush into the vibe pocket space, they will never get in the way, and are easier to remove for cleaning. If you don't need a strong vibe, you can get one that fits flush.
    • Blush Ltd. Addiction
    • Nu Sensuelle Point

Singles - Outside Only

If you want external clitoral stimulation only, whether pressure or vibe, you will need a regular dildo. But some dildos are specially made for external clitoral stimulation. Let's take a look at those.

Dildos to Grind Against

The bases of these toys are specially designed to offer external surfaces to grind against.

• Wet for Her Fusion - ergonomically designed convex base, 2 sizes.
• Fuze - ergonomically designed convex base, firm or softer, many sizes.

Pads/Covers to Grind Against

These are covers/pads to put between you and the base of the dildo. Handy for when your receiver likes a toy that has a flat/suction cup/hard base.

• Bumpher
• Shagger
• B.cush
• Lippi

Dildos with Vibes

• Strap-On-Me Multi Orgasm Vibrating Dildo (NEW!! It's in the mail and I will have a review of it soon) 3 vibes, one special targeted clit design, one perineal (not sure whether the extension is supposed to go in the vagina or past it), one for receiver, remote.
• Fuze - ergonomically designed convex base, firm or softer, many sizes, well-placed vibe insert.
  • Strongest vibes: Though these won't insert flush into the vibe pocket space, they will never get in the way, and are easier to remove for cleaning. If you don't need a strong vibe, you can get one that fits flush.
    • Blush Ltd. Addiction
    • Nu Sensuelle Point

Pads with Vibes

• Bumpher Honeybunch - pad with vibe insert - vibes I recommend above will fit.
• Lippi - Thicker soft pad with vibe insert - vibes I recommend above will fit.

There are many other dildos made with a basic vertical hole in the base to insert a vibe as well. Givers who need medium to strong clitoral stimulation report that the vibration is insufficient with these models. The two vibes I recommend will likely not fit flush in the dildos with a vertical hole in the base, requiring a shorter bullet vibe instead.

Pay Attention to the Length

When choosing a dildo with the idea of clitoral stimulation in mind, think about what you enjoy. If you like to get off with a motion of pressing against the toy to increase the vibe on your clit, be sure to choose a dildo that isn't too long so that you can be in to the hilt (when the best vibe pressure can be obtained) and the toy is not too deep for your receiver. Nothing worse than wanting to push hard to get off but not being able to do so because the dildo is uncomfortable for your partner when it is in that deep.

Harness Vibe Pockets

There are a variety of harnesses with pockets to hold bullet vibes. Let me say right off that I am not a fan. Why? Because first off, the vibe has to line up with your clit, and most times it is nowhere near where it needs to be. But also because you now have something hard in between you and the person you are fucking. This reduces the enthusiasm with which you can fuck your partner without it getting uncomfortable. But some givers don't need as much pressure, and are more sensual peggers, so the vibe pockets work okay.

Spare Parts and Rodeoh harnesses (and others) have pockets for bullet vibes, in a variety of configurations. My recommended strongest vibes may be too long for a horizontal orientation. Smaller bullet vibes will work, and you can decide which pocket gives you the most stimulation, or even both.

Anal Options

If you love anal stimulation, and you have a two strap harness like the Jaguar or the Minx, the Aslan Leather Double Up Cuff allows you to enjoy a wide variety of toys in your ass, and be sure they stay in your ass! You can use the cuff for dildos if you enjoy the feeling of your sphincter being held open. You can enjoy a weighted butt plug like B-Vibe Snug Plugs. Or the vibrating Lovense Hush, which has so many different capabilities it's mind boggling. Or even the vibrating/thrusting Nexus B-Stroker Rimming Plug!

The Double Up Cuff can be purchased as an extra for the Jaguar, but comes standard with the Minx. It should work with any 2 strap harness that you own, provided you can detach the straps.

Positions

The positions givers prefer vary widely, and seem to have a large mental/visual component. One of my favorite positions for my own stimulation is laying down full length on top of my face down partner and slowly thrusting into his ass (even better if he's got a Liberator Ramp under his ass). I do have a dominant streak, so that plays into my fantasies, like I am holding him down and he has no choice. Other givers find that it's the most exciting laying on their backs while their partner rides them, simply because the visual is so fucking hot. Doggie style can feel like the ultimate power trip and be extra stimulating mentally, too. Or consider this, if you are a giver who literally gets off because your partner gets off, you will want the position that produces an orgasm for your receiver, to trigger yours.

Foreplay Before You Start Pegging

Another consideration to help you achieve orgasm during pegging relates to what you do before you start! Engage in extended foreplay, kissing, and nipple stimulation. Have your partner give you oral sex, fingering or intercourse before you start. But they can't come if you do intercourse! They will lose interest in getting pegged.... 🙁 Other 'before you start' options include watching porn together, abstinence for a few days prior to pegging, and even edging for a few days before, too. All those can help you to achieve orgasm during pegging.

Receivers Love to Feel Their Giver Orgasm from Pegging Them

You can do pegging in a way that gives your partner the most pleasure. You can also choose to move in whatever way that gives you the most pleasure. Receivers talk about how hot it feels when a giver lets go and moves for their own pleasure. Many also say that the hottest thing ever is when a giver comes from pegging them.

Whether you reach your goal of orgasm during pegging or just find ways to increase your pleasure, please remember: It's all good, and you are perfect, exactly the way you are.

Happy Pegging!